Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Bumper Stickers!


I'm kind of a nerd.

and I'm not into all of the facebook applications and all of that jazz. There is one application that I have had for a long time and have enjoyed immensely. It's called "Bumper Stickers". It is made up of thousands of little images that people add text to, and then you can browse through them and send them on. My sisters and I are constantly sending them back and forth, and Joshua and I barrage each other with the funniest of them. It's fun :-) It's our little thing.

Whenever a movie from the "Twilight" series comes out, most of the bumper stickers reflect the latest craze and scenes from the movie. I decided to make one too. Because I thought it would be funny. Here it is:




If you have seen the movie, you will be able to recognize the humor of this scene, and why I wrote "I laughed" on it. If you haven't seen the movie yet, and are planning on it, you will laugh.. or atleast giggle.







and it's been added by 12,862 people! I don't think I've ever done anything that 12,862 people have seen.




so even if it's not that cool, I'm feeling WAY cool about it :-)




Sunday, November 22, 2009

The Honeymoon Chronicles Part 4: "Who is the greatest?"


Joshua gives me hand massages. Because after a long day of giving massages to others, sometimes my hands ache a lot a little bit.

People ask me sometimes if my hands get tired at the end of the day. My usual reply is, "You know, sometimes they do get a little tired. It's great though because my husband is really nice and he'll give me hand rubs so that helps a lot."

Here is a list of several actual responses I have had to that question:
1. "Really? How long have you guys been married? My guess is not very long"
2. "I'll ask you again in a couple of years."
3. "That's nice, enjoy that while it lasts"


Is it just me, or is that really crappy? It makes me terribly sad... Sad to think that somewhere in the path of marriage, people stop loving each other practically. Couples stop putting their spouses needs ahead of their own. That someday, Joshua isn't going to give me hand rubs. Is it because he will love me less? I hope not. Is it because we will be busy? We already are too busy.


why why why why why why why why do people stop doing nice things for each other?

Jesus taught us to put others needs ahead of our own. I try as hard as I can to put Joshua's needs ahead of mine and he tries as hard as he can to put my needs ahead of his. It balances out quite nicely. Each of us ends up trying to out do the other person in acts of kindness.

and they're not random. (My preference: intentional acts of kindness)

It's very important to us. We are very proactive about it. Sometimes, I ask him if he would like me to clean cat poop off the floor do something that I do not want to do. But it's because they are things that I know he doesn't want to do or that he would rather not. and I want to love him well. I want to put his needs ahead of my own. (Editors note: I have never picked up cat poop... I have offered... but that's one example of him putting my desires ahead of his)


I want to lay on his side of the bed before he gets in so it's warm. (He does this for me regularly. It's so cute and such a small yet significant sacrifice.)

I want to scrape off his windshield so he doesn't have to. (He does this for me more than I do this for him)

I want to give him the sandwich I was making for myself because he asked for one too. Not to wait until I'm done making mine and then make his, but give him mine. Then, make another one.

I want to fold the laundry because that's just something that he doesn't like doing for whatever reason.

I want to get up in the middle of the night when I'm already in bed if he would like a glass of water (because he wouldn't ask for it unless he really wanted it, right?)



and do I always "want to"? Of course not. I'm lazy, self centered, selfish not perfect. Just like everyone else. But I want to be in love forever

(and ever and ever and ever)

(and it's what Jesus taught us to do)

"Do nothing out of selfish ambition of vain conceit, but in humility, consider others better than yourself. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others" Phillipians 2:3-4



P.S. (I must point out the "but in humility" part of that verse. This post doesn't seem like I'm doing any of that "in humility". I post these because they are the truth of our relationship right now, and I want them to be something I can look back on, if I ever need a slap in the face and to "recover" this truth. Please, know my heart in that... I get nervous and a little insecure when I post stuff like this that I'll be misunderstood. So please, understand!)

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

How-To: Get an Incredible Massage

Well, here is a really practical entry. As a massage therapist, I feel it is my obligation to tell you the secrets to receiving an amazing massage. If you are someone who enjoys massages, here are a few tips on how to have the best massage experience you possibly can. Enjoy! (and go get a stinkin' massage! Everyone needs one)

1. Go to a massage therapist that someone recommended to you. Find out about someone who does a great job, and go to them.

2. Tell that person that you heard they were awesome, and that you're excited to meet them. (This is flattering and gives an expectation for the therapist to live up to. "Oh you heard I'm amazing, well then I better be amazing 'cause I don't want to disappoint!")

3. When the massage begins, make some small talk. Ask the massage therapist a couple of questions about her life, her day, her family, why she decided to do massage therapy. Sometimes, they go an entire day with little to no conversation. Asking questions makes anyone feel important and cared for and interesting. Make your therapist feel good and he or she will be more inclined to make you feel good.

4. Don't feel obligated to talk the entire session. Relax. Your therapist wants you to relax as well. But, occasionally, say something like, "Wow, this feels great". Or "Thank you so much this is just what I needed." The encouragement will spur your therapist on to continuing to work hard, because you are, in fact, enjoying it.

5. When the therapist asks you, "How is the pressure?" Don't respond with "fine". "Fine" is about as vague as it gets. Be specific. For example: "It feels great, but you could probably use a little more pressure in my lower back, if you're able".

6. If the therapist is hurting you or has found a sensitive spot, don't say "ow!" or decide to just grin and bare it. Say something like, "The spot you're working on right now is tender, could you maybe use a little less pressure?" Your therapist wants you to enjoy the session, they aren't interested in hurting you, and you won't hurt their feelings when you say the pressure is too much.

7. Say thank you when your time is finished.

8. Leave a tip. Ok this needs an explanation. Tipping is completely unnecessary. It is not expected. It is not frowned upon if you don't. But if you want to get the best possible massage and you want your succeeding massages to be amazing as well, leave a tip. Your therapist will remember it. Really, they will. and when you come back, they will want to do a good enough job to be rewarded the same way as before. It's a sad truth. I try to put as much equal effort as I can into every massage, but there is just something about the people who regularly tip me that makes me try harder for them. I wish it wasn't so, but it is the truth. Again, it is unnecessary to tip, but this is a blog about getting the best massage you possibly can.

9. Tell others who work at that location that you enjoyed your massage. If it's at a Chiropractors office, tell the Doctor you had a great experience. If it's at a salon, tell the receptionist. If the therapist knows you're telling other people about his/her work, she will again be more inclined to do a great job every time he/she sees you.




So. There you have it :-) I hope that you are able to get a massage and that they help you to have a great experience. I love what I do, and I hope that this will help someone who reads it to get the absolute most out of every massage.

How-To: Get an Incredible Massage

Well, here is a really practical entry. As a massage therapist, I feel it is my obligation to tell you the secrets to receiving an amazing massage. If you are someone who enjoys massages, here are a few tips on how to have the best massage experience you possibly can. Enjoy! (and go get a stinkin' massage! Everyone needs one)

1. Go to a massage therapist that someone recommended to you. Find out about someone who does a great job, and go to them.

2. Tell that person that you heard they were awesome, and that you're excited to meet them. (This is flattering and gives an expectation for the therapist to live up to. "Oh you heard I'm amazing, well then I better be amazing 'cause I don't want to disappoint!")

3. When the massage begins, make some small talk. Ask the massage therapist a couple of questions about her life, her day, her family, why she decided to do massage therapy. Sometimes, they go an entire day with little to no conversation. Asking questions makes anyone feel important and cared for and interesting. Make your therapist feel good and he or she will be more inclined to make you feel good.

4. Don't feel obligated to talk the entire session. Relax. Your therapist wants you to relax as well. But, occasionally, say something like, "Wow, this feels great". Or "Thank you so much this is just what I needed." The encouragement will spur your therapist on to continuing to work hard, because you are, in fact, enjoying it.

5. When the therapist asks you, "How is the pressure?" Don't respond with "fine". "Fine" is about as vague as it gets. Be specific. For example: "It feels great, but you could probably use a little more pressure in my lower back, if you're able".

6. If the therapist is hurting you or has found a sensitive spot, don't say "ow!" or decide to just grin and bare it. Say something like, "The spot you're working on right now is tender, could you maybe use a little less pressure?" Your therapist wants you to enjoy the session, they aren't interested in hurting you, and you won't hurt their feelings when you say the pressure is too much.

7. Say thank you when your time is finished.

8. Leave a tip. Ok this needs an explanation. Tipping is completely unnecessary. It is not expected. It is not frowned upon if you don't. But if you want to get the best possible massage and you want your succeeding massages to be amazing as well, leave a tip. Your therapist will remember it. Really, they will. and when you come back, they will want to do a good enough job to be rewarded the same way as before. It's a sad truth. I try to put as much equal effort as I can into every massage, but there is just something about the people who regularly tip me that makes me try harder for them. I wish it wasn't so, but it is the truth. Again, it is unnecessary to tip, but this is a blog about getting the best massage you possibly can.

9. Tell others who work at that location that you enjoyed your massage. If it's at a Chiropractors office, tell the Doctor you had a great experience. If it's at a salon, tell the receptionist. If the therapist knows you're telling other people about his/her work, she will again be more inclined to do a great job every time he/she sees you.




So. There you have it :-) I hope that you are able to get a massage and that they help you to have a great experience. I love what I do, and I hope that this will help someone who reads it to get the absolute most out of every massage.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

The Golden Rule

"Treat others the way you want to be treated."


I was thinking about this idea the other day and a thought occurred to me. It's a bit complicated, but completely worth sharing so I do hope that you bare with me!


I think that it would be incredibly interesting if we actually felt the feelings that we make other people feel. If we not only treated others the way they want to be treated, but actually felt their emotions that went with how we treated them. Ok, let me explain...


Lets say, for example, you go through the check out line at Meijer. You compliment the cashier on her unique name, get the story behind it, chat about something more than "Did you find everything ok?" and have a good conversation. You would make that cashier feel special and good about him or herself. and because you did that, you yourself would then feel special and good about yourself.


Or, for another example, lets say you are driving and you're not paying very close attention and you cut someone off. They would feel annoyed and maybe angry. and because you made them feel annoyed and angry, you yourself would take on those emotions. You would be annoyed and angry.


Or, for another example, lets say you said something kind of insensitive that hurt someone's feelings and made them feel insecure. You, yourself, would then have hurt feelings and feel insecure.


Does that make sense? I hope so. I think it's potentially a world changing, life altering thought. Because I know (I know I know I KNOW) that if I could honestly feel the way I made other people feel, just as much as they feel their emotions, I would probably live my life a bit differently. Because I know that I don't like to feel angry, hurt, insecure, jealous, annoyed, betrayed, unloved... etc. So I would have a vested interest in not making others feel those emotions. I do, however, like to feel loved, special, like I belong, unique, loved, interesting, beautiful, appreciated, loved, noticed, honored, funny, happy, and loved (and loved and loved)..... I could go on forever. So I would put forth a great effort into making others feel that way, so as to increase my own positive emotions.


What if I lived this way all the time? What if you lived this way all the time? I want to try living like this. I want to live my life accutely aware of the way I am making others feel and taking their emotions on myself.

Because other people matter. They matter more than anything else in this world. More than animals. More than ideas or jobs or degrees or

if you call yourself a Christ-follower, other people matter more than yourself. I constantly have to remind myself of that truth. (and I know it's truth because I can feel it written on my heart, and when I actually do it, I know that it is how life is supposed to be lived)


Imagine. Just imagine if everyone lived this way. Ohmygoodness. The world, the world would be such a beautiful place.


Please, can we all try? To treat others the way we want to be treated, as if it were true.